My son’s soccer coach gets it. He has a hard and fast rule that no parents are allowed to have their cell phones out on the field. He expressed to the parents how heavy his heart becomes when he sees a child make a goal or save, and immediately look to their parent, only to see them scrolling on their phone. It is heartbreaking, and I hate to admit that it has happened to my son. Fortunately, striving to become more mindful and live with present moment awareness has helped me in this area, and it won’t happen again.
Meditation trains your attention in three ways, one of them being your ability to focus on one thing at a time. In this day and age, that is a rare thing. We are often talking on speakerphone, scrolling on a device, and God forbid driving all at the same time. We have got to slow down!
We can all tell when we are on the phone with someone and we don’t have that person’s undivided attention. It is impossible to feel like a priority when we hear the clicking of the keyboard or a voice trailing off and focusing on another task. It doesn’t feel good to me, so I really try not to do it to others. This isn’t to say that I am perfect in this arena, but my goal is to mono task as much as possible. In order to make this a reality I have stopped answering the phone every time it rings. If I really can’t talk because I am in the middle of something, and it isn’t my husband or childrens’ school, than I simply let it go to voicemail and call back.
Have you ever missed an important milestone or event because you were on the phone? What do you do in terms of multi-tasking vs. mono-tasking? I’d love to know in the comments!