As a spiritual teacher and coach, I educate others about honoring and caring for themselves so that they can live their best life possible, which makes me think of a quote I heard recently, “You always teach what you need to learn.”
I KNOW exactly what I need to do to honor my needs as a mom, wife, entrepreneur, sister, daughter and friend, but that doesn’t mean that I am on it 100% of the time. People have this crazy idea that teachers do it right all the time which is simply not true!
Here I go outing myself again….about two weeks ago I had a few days where I felt that I was simply going through the motions of my spiritual practice without truly connecting with it. I was in the final editing stages of Hot Mess to Mindful Mom (coming out May 19th!!) and I was completely and utterly consumed with it. No matter what I was doing minute by minute, my attention was on the book. I felt disconnected during my meditations, anything but present during my spiritual reading and I was spending WAY too much time on the computer. I was on the computer until my tush felt sore!
After a few days of feeling this way I knew it was time to recommit to my practice. I decided that I needed to totally unplug, and I did this by setting up a 2 1/2-hour silent retreat for myself on a Friday afternoon. I even made a little schedule:
Mini Silent Retreat
2:00-2:30 walk outside
2:45-3:00 inspirational reading
3:00-3:30 Gratitude Meditation and Kundalini yoga
Even though my to-do list was a mile long, I knew that I needed this in a big way, and that my tasks would eventually get done better if I was in a more present state when completing them. As I called my husband before I began to let him know I would be unreachable for the next few hours, my ego reared its ugly head and I thought to myself, “I do not have time for this today” but fortunately the voice of sanity replied, “you can’t afford not to do this today.” So I went for it.
After this brief but magical afternoon I felt rejuvenated in my practice and life. Since then I am back to having more boundaries with my time and I feel more present in my meditations. This just goes to show that everyone falls off the wagon at times, but it is the willingness to recommit to your practice over and over again that matters.
I have learned over the past few years that unplugging is vital to my growth and ability to connect with others and myself.
I don’t have 2 1/2 hours every week to do this, but I simply try at some point each day, or each week to put my phone aside and step away from technology. Here are a few suggestions of how you can also unplug a bit at a time:
*leave your phone in the car when dining with family or friends at a restaurant and there will be no chance of being distracted
*leave your phone at home when you go for a walk outside
*set a “last check” time at night, and when that time passes don’t reach for any tech devices
*choose one morning or afternoon on the weekend to completely unplug
Let me know in the comments below how you feel about unplugging. Does it scare you, or does even the thought of unplugging make you feel calm and relaxed???