I really dig flexibility, how about you??


Have you noticed that we spend a lot of time feeling guilty in life?

Maybe it’s because we overspent, or we unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings. It could be because we decided to blow off work and go get a mani/pedi, or maybe because we ate half a pan of brownies hot out of the oven for dinner. Ok….I did do that once! Truth be told, I’ve done all these things.

Whatever it is, I am just not into guilt anymore. I have been there and done that. I am into honoring my needs day by day, while being as kind and as authentic as possible. It has taken me a long time, and lots of inner work to become compassionate with myself, but I am proud to say that I have made huge strides.

One place that I refuse to feel guilty is in my meditation practice. I opt for flexibility instead.

One of the best things about meditation is that there is no way to mess up. Every meditation is a good one, and you can’t do it wrong. You get an A every time you hit your cushion.

Since life is all about balance, there are parts of my practice where I can be flexible, and parts I can’t. Meditating every day is non-negotiable for me. The one or two days in three plus years that I have missed are a glaring example of why I can’t do it again. I get irritable and moody and I may snap at those I love the most, which is a risk I am not willing to take. Starting my day with meditation allows me to connect with my calm, peaceful center, and to take that energy into my entire day. This isn’t to say that I never feel triggered or stressed, but when I have connected to internal calm first thing in my day, I can recover much, much quicker when things come up.

Where I am flexible in my practice is with the focus I use each day. There are many meditators who practice the exact same way every single time they meditate, with the same mantra, breath work or perhaps a loving kindness meditation. I think that is great, and if that works for you go for it! Remember there is no right or wrong here. This is a self-help practice that you must make your own.

I like to check in with my body and mind as I get comfortable on my cushion and see what I am feeling I need that day. Is it mantra, counting my breaths, matching my inhale and exhale, or a more contemplative practice like gratitude? Whatever I need is what technique I use that day. I tend to lean toward mantra most days, but not always, and I allow myself the flexibility to explore my options each day to be sure I am honoring my needs.

How can you exercise flexibility in your life? Where can you release a bit of control and live in the flow? What guilt can you let go of? Where can you free yourself?

Let me know in the comments! I love to hear from you.

2 Comments on What does a pan of hot brownies fresh out of the oven have to do with meditation?

  1. Brenda Murphy
    October 26, 2015 at 11:01 am (2 years ago)

    I like flexibility too. I like to feel it out and decide to do what my body tells me. Keeps things fresh xob

    • Ali Katz
      October 26, 2015 at 12:11 pm (2 years ago)

      love hearing that, especially from a fellow MMI grad! XO


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